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“That Marriage” By Christiana Osun

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A marriage just because it's expected of me!!!
The year 2017 is gradually
coming to an end and some ‘bae this’, ‘bae that’ tweets will start
surfacing, especially since Bella Naija isn’t taking a chill pill even
after the most anticipated wedding of the year: #BAAD2017 , and the
asoebi styles are getting more competitive than creative. Shiloh has
come and gone and some are waiting for the manifestations of their
marital breakthroughs.

It’s less than 3 weeks to the end of the year and those of us ending the year still single know ourselves. Lol.

“Bisi! Awon oko nko?” (literally meaning; “Bisi! How are the husbands?”)

The common narrative for the average Nigerian daughter is: Primary school – Secondary school – University/ Service year – Marriage – Children. Oh!
Some form of vocational training might be embedded somewhere between
the secondary school and university days.  God forbid it that marriage isn’t in your plan.
Those
of you who lived with finalists at one point or the other of your stay
in the university should understand what I mean. It’s baffling to see
girls already planning out their marriage, ‘aso-ebi’ colours etc. I
mean, graduate first.
As a student I have come to get used to the phase; “What if your husband…”
Trust me, when I say it gets tiring. Living in the hostel, I have come
to this generalized conclusion as I have moved from room to room over
the course of my program that; as an African girl child, after school,
there is nothing to look forward to except marriage; even if you don’t
want it, the society will liably and conveniently talk you into
believing that’s what’s next for you.
In
most Nigerian homes, a daughter is expected to bring her ‘husband’ home
while she’s still in school; Man! I thought we were ‘civilized’.
Sometimes, the parents, family, friends, do not bring up such matters
but they insinuate it.
You begin to hear especially in the penultimate year:
“Bisi!
Awon oko nko?” (literally meaning; “Bisi! How are the husbands?”) or
when a family friends’ daughter is getting married you hear;
“See Shade, you will soon bring your invitation home like her.” Or
“Hope you are not chasing them away sha?” The ‘them’ referring to guys that might have been approaching such a lady.

"Bisi! Awon oko nko?"

 “Bisi! Awon oko nko?”
(36NG)

The funniest should be;
“Shey won sha n wa?”- directly translated to mean;
“Hope
they do come?” This kind of question is when they no longer understand
what’s going on and can’t picture any guy with such a lady.
All
these makes a girl weary, partially or permanently loosing focus of
what is real; knowingly or unknowingly. I have seen ladies begin to act
more carefully around guys in their penultimate and final years, dress
more sassy, start applying makeups, tend to be more outgoing, yuda yada
yada.
I once asked a lady,
“Why all this marriage talks?” And she replied, “Don’t you ever want to give birth?”
I scoffed at her, and was really mad, an array of emotions kept
flipping through me while I maintained a stern, unwavering and unsmiling
look; ‘Don’t you ever want to give birth? The audacity!’ If only it
weren’t true that people marry because of societal influence and
religious prejudice, if only it weren’t true that people marry to have a
stable sex partner, if only people never married because if what people
said it people will say, I’d not be this angry.
I
don’t want that marriage: A marriage for the sole purpose of a stable
sex life. I don’t want that marriage: A marriage consummated for the
sake of child rearing. I don’t want that marriage: A marriage just
because it’s expected of me. So, if that is the marriage I’ll be
offered, a marriage the the world expects of me; a marriage I am to
participate in, I AM NOT INTERESTED.
Written by Christiana Osun.
Christiana
is a lover of words. She’s not just a reader, she’s also a writer.
She’s sarcastic, fun loving, and a jack and master of most things
creative. She has her website underway, so watch out.      
Instagram handle: _themillenniallady_  Facebook: OSUN Christiana Oluwadamilola  Email: krwistee@gmail.com

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L. A Prisoners Infect Themselves With Coronavirus To Get Early Release (VIDEO)

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A group of silly L.A area prison inmates were very eager to contract the dreaded coronavirus .

They attempted this because they believed that would trigger their ticket out of prison.

According to the L.A. County Sheriff Alex Villanueva who made the startling revelation Monday, said about twenty-four (24) inmates at the Pitchess Detention Center in Castaic attempted (and somewhat succeeded, apparently) to infect themselves way back in mid-April 2020.

The Sheriff revealed that their department saw an increase in spike in confirmed cases out of nowhere.

He said that when they investigated, they found a high number of inmates living in one block of the prison appeared to be deliberately trying to infect each other with COVID-19 any way they could from behind bars.

When Alex Villanueva played the surveillance footages he and his team combed through carefully , and it showed several inmates hanging out in a common area and passing around what Alex described as a hot cup of water, as well as one face mask they’d each put on all in hopes of getting sympathy from a judge to spring them from the facility and let them go home.

But it turns out, their little ploy worked but, only halfway.

Villanueva reported that 21 of the inmates (out of 50 in the block) caught the ‘Coronavirus.

“What they won’t catch is a break” said the Sheriff.

Watch the Video HERE

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COVID-19 LOCKDOWN: 12 Year Old Albino Girl Suffers Eye Problems After Hawking Veggies In Abuja (PHOTOS)

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A very sad Facebook post greeted Nigerians from Abuja showing a 12 year old Albino Girl Grace, who started developing sight problems after Hawking Veggies under the scorching sun in Abuja.

The Facebook post stated that the little girl was asked to hawk the veggies by her aunt whom she lives with.

Below are the Screenshots of the Facebook post:

This sad news has sparked an outrage by well meaning individuals who spoke against such cruelty and insensitivity of the said girl’s aunt.

what do you think of this? Drop your comments below.

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“Buhari is Made In London” – Reno Omokri Blasts Presidency On Nigerian Made Products

The Buhari administration has been known for enforcing the Nigerian people to patronize Nigerian made goods though without much strategy to make life easier while this transition to economic growth is enforced.

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The Buhari administration has been known for enforcing the Nigerian people to patronize Nigerian made goods though without much strategy to make life easier while this transition to economic growth is enforced. Many Nigerians have tagged it a harsh move that is insensitive and inhumane but moreso, Reno Omokri has singled out signals of hypocrisy in the President of Nigeria by outlining certain traits of family moves of the President that shows that he(Buhari) as the No.1 citizen has no regards for anything made in Nigeria but yet wants other Nigerians to embrace Nigerian made goods.

Reno Omokri ‘s tweet reads:

His kids schooled in England. His wife just returned from a 3 month UK stay. His daughter gave birth to his grandchild in Spain (made in Spain), yet
@MBuhari
, who is London, wants us to patronise made in Nigeria!

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