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5 financial talks to have with bae before marriage

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People in relationships
sometimes avoid the subject of money in relationships, because nobody
ever wants to be seen as a money-chaser or a liability.

But that’s wrong.
Discussing
money, and expressing an unhidden curiosity about your partner’s
finances is not the same as being a gold digger or parasite or
opportunist.
As a matter of fact, if you
truly love someone you will be concerned about every facet of their
life, every single detail about them, and they will be open to you
because relationships are about honesty, too.

You also need to be sure your partner has no bad spending habits (SBM)

While
a great deal of tact and diplomacy is needed while trying to get these
information, it needs to be done nonetheless, especially when the
relationship is getting serious and both partners begin to commit to
each other than before.
When that time comes, there are five unavoidable topics you must discuss and they are listed below.

1. Are we financially compatible?

The answer to this can be gotten by asking, and by observing also.
When
in a relationship that seems to be heading somewhere great, partners
need to sit down and have a conversation about their finances, the
differences and how to reconcile them.
Money matters in love... so much

Are our finances compatible? (Minority Fortune)

For
instance, where a partner chooses to save a certain percentage of his
income and the other thinks it’s too low because she places more premium
on saving, then they’d have to reach a compromise on that.

2. Are you in debt?

If the answer is yes, then the next logical questions are “how much debt are you in, are they manageable debts, what’s the repayment plan, when do they mature?” etc.
You
could also ask what the debt was acquired for. It helps to know that
you are not marrying someone in the habit of indebting themselves for
ostensible, unnecessary things.

3. What are your financial aims?

Hold on with this one till when an engagement looks very close, or just immediately after you get a proposal.
This question is as important as the cliché question “where do you see yourself in 5 years?”

4. Joint or separate accounts?

Never
ever get too shy or sensitive to ask this. It’s a conversation to be
had either when you are about to get engaged, when you get engaged, or
just after marriage.
Surely before one of marriage though.

Love and money are entwined and you’d be naive to ever think otherwise (TIA)

If
you are open to the idea and your partner is not, then the best thing to
do is to agree on a certain percentage of your individual incomes, and
deposit it in an account.
Do it in the name if your kids if you have to. As a matter of fact, you should do it for them if not for anything else.

5. How do we settle bills?

Who
pays the kids’ school fees? Who buys groceries? How do you pay for your
home? Who gets clothes for the kids? Who settles the rent?
Here are conversations you need to have too. Are they going to be done together, or only one of you will bear this burdens?

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Better have this conversations at the appropriate time and discuss them well so you can be sure you and your partner are on the same page before it becomes too late to make any meaningful change.

 

Written By Ayoola Adetayo

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Ike Ani is a Freelance writer whose quest constantly is to relate happenings around the world to human daily living. He's also a song writer and singer, Acoustic Guitarist, and Teacher.

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L. A Prisoners Infect Themselves With Coronavirus To Get Early Release (VIDEO)

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A group of silly L.A area prison inmates were very eager to contract the dreaded coronavirus .

They attempted this because they believed that would trigger their ticket out of prison.

According to the L.A. County Sheriff Alex Villanueva who made the startling revelation Monday, said about twenty-four (24) inmates at the Pitchess Detention Center in Castaic attempted (and somewhat succeeded, apparently) to infect themselves way back in mid-April 2020.

The Sheriff revealed that their department saw an increase in spike in confirmed cases out of nowhere.

He said that when they investigated, they found a high number of inmates living in one block of the prison appeared to be deliberately trying to infect each other with COVID-19 any way they could from behind bars.

When Alex Villanueva played the surveillance footages he and his team combed through carefully , and it showed several inmates hanging out in a common area and passing around what Alex described as a hot cup of water, as well as one face mask they’d each put on all in hopes of getting sympathy from a judge to spring them from the facility and let them go home.

But it turns out, their little ploy worked but, only halfway.

Villanueva reported that 21 of the inmates (out of 50 in the block) caught the ‘Coronavirus.

“What they won’t catch is a break” said the Sheriff.

Watch the Video HERE

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COVID-19 LOCKDOWN: 12 Year Old Albino Girl Suffers Eye Problems After Hawking Veggies In Abuja (PHOTOS)

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A very sad Facebook post greeted Nigerians from Abuja showing a 12 year old Albino Girl Grace, who started developing sight problems after Hawking Veggies under the scorching sun in Abuja.

The Facebook post stated that the little girl was asked to hawk the veggies by her aunt whom she lives with.

Below are the Screenshots of the Facebook post:

This sad news has sparked an outrage by well meaning individuals who spoke against such cruelty and insensitivity of the said girl’s aunt.

what do you think of this? Drop your comments below.

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“Buhari is Made In London” – Reno Omokri Blasts Presidency On Nigerian Made Products

The Buhari administration has been known for enforcing the Nigerian people to patronize Nigerian made goods though without much strategy to make life easier while this transition to economic growth is enforced.

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The Buhari administration has been known for enforcing the Nigerian people to patronize Nigerian made goods though without much strategy to make life easier while this transition to economic growth is enforced. Many Nigerians have tagged it a harsh move that is insensitive and inhumane but moreso, Reno Omokri has singled out signals of hypocrisy in the President of Nigeria by outlining certain traits of family moves of the President that shows that he(Buhari) as the No.1 citizen has no regards for anything made in Nigeria but yet wants other Nigerians to embrace Nigerian made goods.

Reno Omokri ‘s tweet reads:

His kids schooled in England. His wife just returned from a 3 month UK stay. His daughter gave birth to his grandchild in Spain (made in Spain), yet
@MBuhari
, who is London, wants us to patronise made in Nigeria!

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