sometimes avoid the subject of money in relationships, because nobody
ever wants to be seen as a money-chaser or a liability.
money, and expressing an unhidden curiosity about your partner’s
finances is not the same as being a gold digger or parasite or
truly love someone you will be concerned about every facet of their
life, every single detail about them, and they will be open to you
because relationships are about honesty, too.
a great deal of tact and diplomacy is needed while trying to get these
information, it needs to be done nonetheless, especially when the
relationship is getting serious and both partners begin to commit to
each other than before.
1. Are we financially compatible?
in a relationship that seems to be heading somewhere great, partners
need to sit down and have a conversation about their finances, the
differences and how to reconcile them.
instance, where a partner chooses to save a certain percentage of his
income and the other thinks it’s too low because she places more premium
on saving, then they’d have to reach a compromise on that.
2. Are you in debt?
could also ask what the debt was acquired for. It helps to know that
you are not marrying someone in the habit of indebting themselves for
ostensible, unnecessary things.
3. What are your financial aims?
4. Joint or separate accounts?
ever get too shy or sensitive to ask this. It’s a conversation to be
had either when you are about to get engaged, when you get engaged, or
just after marriage.
you are open to the idea and your partner is not, then the best thing to
do is to agree on a certain percentage of your individual incomes, and
deposit it in an account.
5. How do we settle bills?
pays the kids’ school fees? Who buys groceries? How do you pay for your
home? Who gets clothes for the kids? Who settles the rent?
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Better have this conversations at the appropriate time and discuss them well so you can be sure you and your partner are on the same page before it becomes too late to make any meaningful change.
Written By Ayoola Adetayo